Dialing While Drunk

Someone needs to school Ginni Thomas, wife of Supreme Coon, sorry Court Justice Clarence Thomas, on the art of issuing an olive branch and when to expect an apology. The Justice’s wife, who has just emerged as a Tea Party leader, recently left a message for Anita Hill, who in 1991 accused her husband of sexual harassment. In the voice mail left by Ginni she requested an apology and a full explanation of “why you did what you did with my husband” and went on to say “So give it some thought. And certainly pray about this and hope that one day you will help us understand why you did what you did. O.K., have a good day.” The voice mail message was left at 7:30 AM on a Saturday morning…sounds like someone did some drunk dialing to me. There are so many things wrong with this that I hardly know where to begin.

Let’s start with the obvious sense of superiority and white privilege issues Ginni Thomas possesses because that’s the only thing that would allow this woman to demand an apology from that ‘lil black gal that dared to make accusations against her husband. And Ms. Hill was the obvious and clear victim of sexual harassment on the part of her truly trifling, sorry ass excuse for a Black man husband. Apology? Really? She had to be drunk; why else would she have the balls to make such a ridiculous demand and then follow it up with “so pray about it and have a good day”. What?? Have a good day? Either that or she was smoking some shit even Snoop Dogg wouldn’t touch. Almost 20 years later and she comes at Ms. Hill with this BS? Has this been on her mind for all this time? And how about “why you did what you did with my husband”, what the hell is that? Ms. Hill never said she actually did anything with Justice Thomas, she accused him of making inappropriate remarks, so has Ginni been suspicious of her husband and his affairs for the past two decades? I seem to recall there was another woman, also African-American, who made accusations of sexual harassment at the same time as Ms. Hill so maybe the Justice has a thing for the Black gals and Ginni is fed up. She must have woke up that morning rolled over, slapped the shit out of her husband, dialed Anita Hill and said to herself, “I’m gonna get to the bottom of this shit right now” but when the machine came on she chickened out and left that stupid ass message.

When contacted by the New York Times Ginni Thomas stated, “I did place a call to Ms. Hill at her office extending an olive branch to her after all these years, in hopes that we could ultimately get past what happened so long ago”…ok. First of all, crazy psycho ass, you don’t demand an apology from someone and then say you’re extending an olive branch. An olive branch represents goodwill or peace and there was nothing peaceful about this phone call. No what you were doing is called being passive aggressive. As far as getting past what happened so long ago, it seems your ass is the one who needs to pray and get past it. Ms. Hill, now a professor at Brandeis University, is doing just fine and you are lucky she didn’t get all ghetto on your ass and give you a good ole fashioned cussing out followed by a demand to meet her on the playground after school for a well deserved ass whooping.

Olive branch my ass, no this is clearly an attempt to deflect attention away from Ginni Thomas’ racist Tea Party activities some of which may end up one day before the Supreme Court and given her husband’s place on the Supreme Court along with her recently calling President Obama a tyrant probably a wise, albeit devious move.

An Uncomfortable Truth

The problems with acceptance of homosexuality in the African-American community are rooted in the Black church but most definitely are fueled by the media’s portrayal of gay men on TV and film. The recent spate of gay teen suicides promoted by bullying is a direct result of these portrayals. As a great number of these teens have been African-American this problem must be addressed by our community. Gay men are portrayed as weak, effeminate, sex crazed, man hungry predators who will steal your man from you. Just ask Oprah Winfrey who as recently as last week continues to sensationalize and promote hysteria through inaccuracies of the “Down Low” syndrome where secretive self-loathing African-American gay men are said to prey and spread disease to unsuspecting heterosexual African-American women. These shows do nothing to forward the conversation or accurately report the facts or even speak to the pressure of trying to fit into the norm of a heterosexual relationship brought on by religious condemnation and societal hatred. They ignore the fact that our culture of masculinity practically demands these men deny who they truly are for fear of rejection and isolation which leads to the down low in the first place. Shows like Oprah Winfrey’s only add to the demonization of gay men in our culture. A demonization passed on to our youth who bully and torment those they are taught to perceive as weak and different.

Spoiler alert. A diverse gay culture exists just like that of any ethnic culture. It’s not all Will & Grace and Rupaul’s Drag Race. There are masculine gay men, feminine queens, androgynous men & women, butch women, lipstick lesbians, cross dressers and those transitioning from men to women or vice versa. There are high, middle and low income gay people. Some are educators, white collar and blue collar workers and you more than likely work with a gay person everyday and may not know it. But isn’t that how it should be? Not all gay people are artistic fashion mavens and get this, just like there are some Black people who are ashamed or even horrified that the ‘Flava Flav’s of the world and his girl Miss “New York” exist there are those in the gay community who are just as appalled by the flamboyant overtly feminine men found on shows like the Real Housewives of Atlanta or the degrading minstrel gay images found in Tyler Perry films. These people do not represent the entire gay culture anymore than ‘Lil Wayne and his sagging pants represent all African-Americans.

The media is responsible for throwing all gays into the same basket. But guess what, just because a man prefers a man to a woman doesn’t mean he'd necessarily want to put on a dress and just because he likes to wear a dress doesn't mean he prefers the company of butch women and not all lesbians want to assume the role of a man...diversity. Not all gay teens can relate to effeminate bitchy queens and a more balanced and positive portrayal of gays in the media should be demanded. It’s easier to laugh at an African-American gay man wearing heels and carrying a purse yet these images send a message to our youth and bullies that being gay is wrong and something to laugh at. No matter what anyone may tell you words hurt and the images conjured up with hateful speech are meant to brutalize. Anyone who has ever been called a sissy or a faggot can attest to that.

Believe it or not there are gay men and women who lead normal lives, get up and go to work each day and maintain healthy enduring relationships and these are the images to which our youth, straight and gay need to be exposed, if for no other reason than to combat the sense of helplessness and feeling lost and alone. I’ve been there and I know that feeling of insecurity and desperation and believe me, without the proper support group or positive role models, it often times leads one to prefer suicide as an option to living.

The Really Delusional Housewives of Atlanta

Ok so the really bitchy, low class, ghetto acting, embarrassing and from what I can tell only two of which are actually married, Real Housewives of Atlanta are back and just as tacky as ever. And I gotta say over the break someone should have purchased a Rosetta Stone English CD for NeNe as a matter of fact for the entire cast, “get ya finga out ma face”… Really? At any rate things haven’t changed much for the girls from the ATL. Sheree is still in a fantasy world regarding her ability to do anything of substance and says that now acting is her passion (what happened to She by Sheree?) NeNe is still a big bully or as Kim likes to call her a big moose, and speaking of Kim not only is she still trailer park trashy she apparently is now “gay for pay” and Kandi still looks like she doesn’t belong on the show. However I’m convinced she is the only one capable of taking on NeNe and I look forward to her one day whooping the big broad’s ass and I gotta ask, are we sure NeNe isn’t a drag queen? I mean have you seen the size of those feet and I could swear I caught her act at the Catch One circa 1996. There are two new members of the cast but we have only met one so far. She’s a pregnant attorney married to an ex convict and says things like “I want my kids to have traditional names”. Yeah traditional like her name, Phaedra and her husband’s Apollo. She’s convinced he loves her because he signed a prenup… I’m not so sure I’d want this woman in charge of my legal affairs.

So let’s recap episode 1 season 3. Apparently NeNe’s husband has out lasted his usefulness to her. In her mind because of her “celebrity” status she can make money on her own and no longer needs her sugar daddy...or the stripper pole. In typical NeNe fashion she picks a public fight with Dwight and makes a huge scene and thus the famous quote to Dwight, “get ya finga out ma face”...classy. The whole time Kim and Sheree are following behind her instigating...made me want to see someone slap the shit out of both of them. And speaking of Dwight where in the world would this Stunt Queen get $30,000 to give Sheree and another $10,000 for NeNe’s husband? Is he printing his own money with his face on it? Maybe he has one of those money trees I dreamed of as a child. You gotta love when he tore up NeNe’s check and told her he wanted cash, he truly is the definition of a Drama Queen. Something’s obviously up with him and NeNe’s man because Mr. Greg is not as innocent as he wants to appear, he’s hiding something. Kim had a sex talk with her 13 year old daughter and said she hopes her daughter shares her morals and values…Really? Evidently sleeping with married men for money is the height of moral in Kim’s world…and valuable. At any rate someone should teach her daughter how to chew with her mouth closed…disgusting.

As usual Sheree is busy being all kinds of stupid. As previously noted it appears that she has given up on her “passion” of a clothing line and has now focused her attention on her “passion” for acting…and her first Oscar. Yes…Oscar. The woman’s levels of delusion and self importance are unbelievable. How about getting a job to support yourself and your children and by the way how did that eight figure settlement from your ex husband turn out? Someone please let Kandi know that her Fantasia redo hair don’t is not working…just makes her look like she’s trying way too hard. So since the death of her fiancée, she’s decided to try being celibate for a year or celivat as her new boyfriend says. He just wants to ensure that celibacy doesn’t include oral sex to which she quickly agrees. Did we need to know that? And what happened to that new CD of hers? Did it come and go already? So far the role of the new housewife we’ve met, Phaedra, appears to be to trash NeNe and be BFF to Dwight. She grew up with NeNe and it’s apparent that they have some ugly history together, so we may be let in on some dirty little secrets about NeNe but she better watch her back with Dwight and make sure she doesn’t share any of her own secrets with him…lest they become real public. She also has no trouble telling the camera what she’s wearing and how much it cost…again classy.

Congratulations to Dwight as it seems his drama queen antics and permanent residence at the corner of Catty Street and Shady Avenue have landed him a role as an unofficial Atlanta Housewife. Looks like a lot of this season’s drama will revolve around him. Maybe he’ll earn enough money from the show to loan to Sheree to aid in her quest for Oscar gold after which I hear she has plans to find a cure for cancer…just delusional!